I love this image – the way the sun shines from the side of the motorway whilst the rest of the sky is threatening to pour down on us. There is hope that the sun might just burn through the clouds and fend off the rain.
This image also symbolises to me the oppression of our past on our day to day existence and how positive experiences and thoughts may get overshadowed by that which we have not cleared.
Today the blog wrote itself, before I found the image, so contrary to the other 200+ days, it was the image that matched the idea and not the idea matching the image. And let me tell you why this is.
Today I was having a session with a client in which the theme is dealing with anger. And as we were talking we spoke of the life time line (you know the task I also set you to do a few months back?!) and we spoke of how this client instead of writing things down they kept the events in their head. So I encouraged the client to jot things down for a number of reasons. This client continues to harbour a lot of anger and yet have no idea what the anger is about. So as we were talking about their time line it was clear that there were times when their needs were not met during their life time. So the follow on task I set this client was not only to create their life time line with the important events in their lives that makes them the person they are today, but also to consider what needs of their were not met from early childhood to today. After our session however I reflected for myself, that whilst I was setting a task for a client, perhaps I too should consider completing the same task. Sometimes growth can come from the strangest of places.
So here are the questions I set the client:
Which need has not been met? Food? Shelter? Love? Friendship? Warmth? Safety? Security? Stability? A home? Physical touch – hugs/kisses? I then asked them to consider who were the people who taught them skills such as cooking, reading, walking, talking, what a friend is, what a home is, what family means, learning right from wrong, learn what friendship means, choosing the right friend, what does adulthood mean, how to actually make friends, how to interview well, etc.
The point I was trying to bring home for this client was to consider who were the important people in their lives who taught them about the world. I also wanted them to consider who are the people that perhaps let them down consistently, and whether the anger they felt was it from a place of being let down by those people, or was it anger because their needs were not met? Who were the people that provided the safety in mind and body? Were there any people in their life who provided that mental and physical safety? Who taught them how to survive? Who were the people that met their needs? Who taught them what anger looks like? Who taught them how to manage emotions? Who modelled how to manage emotions?
So if you are reading this today, I invite you to perhaps complete the same task, take your own notes, do your own exploration, discover what you need to discover, and uncover what perhaps remained hidden for years in your body or mind, and bring it to light.
As always join in the conversation in a comment, or journal your thoughts. We are ready to evolve, join us on the journey of discovery.
